July 16, 2014

2nd law

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The Second Law of Control is Our addiction to control causes most (maybe all) of our emotional problems. Anxiety, depression, addictions, bad relationships, broken communication — all deeply rooted in attempts to control what either can’t or shouldn’t be controlled.

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Ann
July 16th, 2014 at 9:18 pm

Can you please post the 4a’s that you used to describe love? I want to make sure I hit them all with my own children.

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Steve Hauptman
July 16th, 2014 at 11:14 pm

The four A’s are attention, acceptance, approval and affection.

Discussed in “Love,” here:

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2nd law

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The Second Law of Control is Our addiction to control causes most (maybe all) of our emotional problems. Anxiety, depression, addictions, bad relationships, broken communication — all deeply rooted in attempts to control what either can’t or shouldn’t be controlled.

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