Unexpressed feelings will never

.

Anxious people (and we are

all anxious people) try to control

other people mainly by editing

themselves — hiding the parts

they think others won’t like.

 

Most importantly, they bury their

feelings instead of expressing them

 

That last sentence defines the heart

of anxiety.

 

That’s because feelings are — excuse

this analogy — like shit.

 

Like feces, feelings are supposed to

be expelled and expressed, not

hidden and buried.

 

When they’re buried, they don’t

go away; they collect.

 

The person then becomes

emotionally constipated,

lives in a constant state of

internal self-interruption,

pressure, and emotional pain.

 

Anxiety is the name we give

to this pain.

.

~ From “The anxious,” Chapter 24 of Monkeytraps: Why Everybody Tries to Control Everything and How We Can Stop (2015).

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