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Can you help me?
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I ask myself so many questions
I can’t decide which one
to write about next.
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I also wonder which ones
you ask yourself.
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Questions like
(a) Why can’t I say No?
(b) Why am I so hard on myself?
(c) Why do I need everyone to like me?
(d) Why do I feel stuck?
(e) Why do I feel guilty when I rest?
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Which do you think I should write about?
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Tell me in the comments.
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Or, even better, tell me what question(s)
you’d like me to add.
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Your answer will help me decide
what to worry about next.
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Thanks.
July 19th, 2026 at 8:56 pm
a or c. Thank you !
July 20th, 2026 at 1:27 am
Thanks for the feedback. 🙂
July 22nd, 2026 at 1:38 pm
My question
How do you feel your feelings (on the way to letting go of them)
I am loving the new Bert post…:)
Best Ali
July 22nd, 2026 at 3:13 pm
Good question. It starts with coming down out of the head and into the body. That’s where feelings live, but we usually don’t notice because we’re distracted by the static generated by what the Buddhists call monkey mind, that restless pinballing from thought to thought and worry to worry. When I’m working with a client I ask them to take a deep breath, and then another, and then just notice what’s happening below the neck line — any tension or tightness or heaviness or discomfort. That’s often a sign of a feeling they’re sitting on. Then if they find something, I’ll tell them to just pay attention to it. “Don’t try to remove it or change it,” I’ll say, “just put all your attention on it. Breathe into it, if you can.” What usually happens after a minute or two is the tension relaxes or goes away. Once a client has learned to do this, we’ll go deeper into what sort of feeling it is
— mad, sad, glad and scared are the basic four — and how it can be expressed safely in session. There’s a range of techniques for doing that in therapy. But for someone working alone, feeling feelings starts with respectful attention to the body.
July 23rd, 2026 at 1:21 pm
Please answer:
why am I so hard on myself?
July 23rd, 2026 at 1:28 pm
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