5 responses to “Every conversation”

• alexis
  October 25th, 2015 at 4:41 pm

  Only 2 floors, Steve? I’m thinking, at least 5: the top floor [what is said], the 2d floor [what is avoided being said], the 1st floor [what is felt and not acknowledged], the basement [what is yet unconscious, so operating as a ghost] and below ground–way below ground [the ‘shadow’ personality that is deflected and unaccessible until it ‘blows’]. Ah, the human condition!

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  • Steve Hauptman
    October 25th, 2015 at 7:00 pm

    True enough. As a practical matter, though, I find the first step in repairing communication breakdowns is to drop down to the emotional floor.

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    • alexis
      October 25th, 2015 at 7:16 pm

      Agreed! At least it can be accessed, identified and mediated. Thanks.

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• Al
  November 8th, 2015 at 12:32 pm

  I’m not sure it’s easy to access the emotional floor.
  In my experience it’s a struggle to find a way to talk.
  It’s hard to identify the feeling let alone convey it to another..
  Hence the need for a simple language – mad, glad, sad or scared.
  And then the need to learn to use I statement….
  Then it’s practice, practice, practice…
  Ali

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• alexis
  November 9th, 2015 at 7:03 am

  I walk among people who are versed in self-awareness, so I forget that this is probably true, Steve. Thanks.

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